Some of my clients over the last week have been asking me how I found my ‘purpose’. It seems that a lot of people are worried that they don’t know what their true purpose is yet, and have a sense of sadness that if they don’t discover it in the next 2 weeks then they are doomed. They get anxious when people ask ‘So, where do you see yourself in 12months, 2 years, 10 years?’ and they don’t really know the answer. (Or the answer scares them because they sure as hell don’t want it to be the same as where they are now but they don’t know what to do about it!) Cue frustration, comparison, over-analysing, and a couple freaking-the-shit-out moments, especially when you see other people rocking it in their flow zone and you wonder why you don’t feel that fired up about things like they do.
So let me share a couple of steps from my experience of ‘finding my purpose.’
Step 1 – Follow your freakin’ heart. And first up, this means that you’ve actually got to get to know what your heart wants. Like really wants. Not what you think it wants (aka what your head tells you that you ‘should’ do). Not what your parents want, or your friends, or your dog, or your neighbour – but what YOUR heart wants. You’ve got to do the inner work, but the truth is that most of us already know what we want to do, but we don’t want to admit it to ourselves because we are scared of what might happen if we fully owned it… maybe you won’t be the ‘cool cat’ anymore and will have to put yourself out there in places that you’ve judged others for being in the past. Gasssssp!
Step 2 – Let go of the ‘how it should look’ shit. I’ve always had an inner calling to teach, but never as a school teacher, and for a while that frustrated the crap outta me because if I wasn’t a school teacher then how the bloody heck would I teach? After doing my own inner work and letting go of a lotttt of stuff, and in figuring out how to unapologetically do step 1 – it started unfolding very quickly. You will always be guided – if you take the time to listen and stop getting in your own way! I randomly felt the call to start a blog on my 22nd birthday. None of my friends were blogging and I didn’t even know what a blog was, but I just felt the call to start and decided I would figure it out as I went. A year later I randomly landed on a website and before I could even think twice I had enrolled into a course to become a Life Coach, even though at the time I didn’t even know what a Life Coach was. Looking back now, that course was the foundation for me to become a teacher. A teacher in my own way, by my own rules.
I now teach woman how to follow their hearts, shake a few of their old limits and excuses up, and teach them to start living their purpose too. I don’t teach in a school – I teach through my writing and my videos. I teach through workshops, I teach through online courses, I teach about Essential oils, and I will soon be teaching Kundalini Yoga. Each of these stepping stones has allowed me to now step into a higher purpose of mine – teaching ‘everyday’ women how to be heart-driven leaders and create change in the World. I mean seriously – do you think I thought it was going to look like this 4 years ago when I was completely lost, studying something because I thought I ‘should’ and being very far from being connected to my heart – HELL NO. Which leads me to…
Step 3 – Stay open and surrender. The truth is that you actually already know. Seriously, you do. You know the answers, but you let your head judge them, think they aren’t ‘good enough’, compare them to others, worry what people will think, or feel guilty for wanting what you really want. You already know you are here to be more then a blob, and to make a difference in other peoples lives in some way. And if you didn’t know that yet, then I just reminded you. Your purpose doesn’t need to be on a World stage in front of everyone – some people’s purpose will be to be out on stage and and some people’s won’t be. There is no difference (although your Ego will try to convince you that there is) and there absolutely is no ‘but their’s is better so mine sucks and isn’t really that good so I won’t bother’. I call BS hard on that one.
Step 4 – Meditate on your purpose. Visualise yourself serving at your full capacity. Meditate on you beaming in your absolute element – and hey, the vision you get back may surprise you. What are you doing? How do you feel? Who is there? Don’t judge it, and sure as hell don’t block it by your mind being all ‘as IF you could do that, who are you kidding mate?’ Set the intention to be open to receiving, to be open to seeing yourself in a new way. Let go of limited self-perceptions and let your heart lead on this one. Ask for guidance, stay open and you will always receive.
Step 5 – Remember that when you take away all the labels and bright-lights, your ultimate purpose is joy. Teaching, speaking, seeing others shine, speak up and honour their hearts – THAT brings my soul the most joy, and I’ll never stop. It might keep evolving, and how it ‘looks’ on the outside might change, but this is my zone. Why? Because it’s where I feel most joyful, passionate, connected to my heart, most in service and most ME.
Step 6 – Stop letting shitty excuses convince you that you can’t do what you’re here to do. Money is an easy excuse from your Ego to keep you from following your heart and living your purpose. Not having enough time is an excuse. Not knowing enough is an excuse. Worrying that you might lose friends over it is an excuse. You either find an excuse or you find a way. Divorce all the silly stories keeping you away from who you are here to be.
Your purpose will find you when you just be YOU.
So take a chill pill, rock out as you, and soon enough you’ll find yourself leading a tribe of hundreds in what feels like the blink of an eye with people’s hearts cracking open right before your very eyes. Just sayin’.
One last thing that I want you to know is that the most powerful thing you can be when finding your purpose is OPEN, and the most powerful place you can live when looking for your purpose is in the NOW.
So are you open, now?
As I slowly merge my way out of last weeks Kundalini Yoga bubble, I’m feeling called to reflect on some things I’ve learnt up until this point, rather than bang on about details of the yoga training itself. There are some sweet lessons that I want to share with you – so first let’s back the truck up a little and start from the beginning.
I want to start off by saying this – over 18 months ago I planted a seed in my mind about becoming a Kundalini Yoga Teacher. It was one of those ideas that just dropped into my awareness one day, kind of out of nowhere. Until this point I had practiced yoga on and off, but I could never see myself as a yoga teacher – especially because the only fitness teaching I’d done up until now was being a Les Mills Body Attack instructor – which is pretty much the complete opposite end of the scale!
I had never heard of Kundalini Yoga until I randomly came across a class online and my curiosity was triggered. I found myself instantly drawn to learning more about this specific practice and the teachings of Yogi Bhajan (pictured) – Master of Kundalini Yoga. The more I read up on this powerful technology, the more I fell in love with it and knew in my heart that I’ve got to teach it some day in a new way. There was just something about it, and the more I practiced, the more my outside (and inside) World started to shift. That very first day that I “randomly found it” (or should I say – it found me) a little seed was planted. And the thing with seeds is, first they are planted and although you can’t see them, you know they are there. You trust in them even before you see the full manifestation and before you have to figure out all the answers to ‘how and when’, just know that they will always blossom and come into fruition when they are meant to – it’s law.
So I followed my curiosity and started doing Kundalini Yoga from home (yogaglo.com is the bomb) and soon hooked up with my first teacher in Perth, Rosie Rees. Turns out Rosie had just moved over from the East Coast and was starting her first ever 6 week Kundalini Yoga beginners course – of course this timing lined up perfectly because the Universe doesn’t mess around with alignment. First rule – when things show up effortlessly on your path, your job is to follow the crumbs. (more…)
The past month has been a really interesting and awesome one for me. I turned 25, went on a holiday to Bali with my soulies, attended the Beautiful You Coaching Academy’s Bali Inspiration Day dedicated to the Divine Feminine, finished up the first round of my 8 week Head to Heart ecourse and was out of the blue intuitively guided and drawn towards new teachers and tools (which I now understand why!).
April was going to be a big month – I could feel it. I had my to-do list ready and was fired up and ready to roll with ideas coming out my ears! However, as I went to get cracking on them, my energy for them just disappeared. Gone. Seeya later. No desire whatsoever. And this is very unlike me! At first I was confused because I am a fiery Aries that genuinely does like to get shit done, but something inside was giving me the nope, not this time pal feels.
This is what I know to be true – creation works in spirals, not straight lines. All we can do is follow the guidance we receive in each next moment – especially when it makes no sense at all. Follow the flow, right?
So as I look back on the last month, things are starting to make more sense. It all fell into place after I recently had an energy balance and the blocks were all on receiving, feeling nourished and more specifically on a physical level – my reproductive organs. These sacred parts of ourselves aren’t just a physical part of us – they house emotions, beliefs, energies and so much more. And this part of us for women in particular, is so darn wise and sacred. This part of my body had been guiding me and giving me the signs all along – I just wasn’t paying attention.
++ This may not make sense to you just yet, but I love sharing and I truly believe there are some of you out there who are feeling off, disconnected and confused with your energy, feelings and emotions as well, so why not open up the discussion about it! ++
For those familiar with the energy centres of your body, aka chakras, there is a beautiful wise part of us women called the Sacral Chakra. On a physical level it covers the lower abdomen, reproductive organs and lower back. It’s the home of our pleasure, passion, sensuality, abundance (relationship with money and receiving), emotions (also stores a LOT of shame, guilt and fear) and feelings (ability to be vulnerable and soft), intimacy and connection (to ourselves, others and the Universe). This energy centre determines how we allow ourselves to experience life through feelings and sensations. It helps you feel the juiciness in each present moment. And this very word here – pleasure – I’ve come to realise is what’s missing for a lot of us.
Even the word makes some people cringe and brings up fear and ickyness for many – know you aren’t alone and you aren’t a weirdo if either comes up for you. And for this exact reason, I’ve been called to explore more of this part of myself. I’m not talking about this topic in a sexual way, although that absolutely is a part of it, I’m talking more about the everyday pleasures of life that we are missing right before our eyes. You know, like actually slowing the frick down and feeling again. Not trying to be everything to everyone and serve from a depleted place because that’s where we serve noone. Knowing ourselves on a deeper level and connecting to wise parts of ourselves that we’ve been turning a blind eye on or suppressing for far too long.
I am so excited to learn more about this groovy part of myself and if this resonates I invite you on the journey with me and let’s explore together!
How I am currently working with my Sacral Chakra and awakening more of my feminine energy;
First up – connecting with yourself and this particular energy centre. Put your hands over your lower abdomen, hips or womb area, or even as a starting point just sit in meditation and hold your awareness there, and just close your eyes and feel. Does it make you feel weird? Emotional? Ashamed? Blocked? Sad? Happy? Alive? Peaceful? Buzzy? There is no right or wrong, the point is to feel. You are so safe to go there. (more…)