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How to make the ‘right’ decision.

I’ve been going through a lot of internal upgrades and changes in my life lately that have called me to make some not so easy decisions. Making decisions can be really tough at times due to the fact that we automatically freak the eff out about making the ‘wrong decision’ soo much that we usually procrastinate and make no decision at all!

To make your life a little easier – especially if you are struggling with making a tough decision at the moment – ask yourself this big juicy question: “Is this moving me closer to my dreams, closer to my purpose, closer to my goals, closer to my true self? Or, is it keeping me from them?” 

That’s all we should ever base our decisions on in my eyes, choosing the direction that is nudging you closer to your full potential and the life you truly want to be living – well that and following the path that’s going to bring you the MOST joy obviously. (numbers + BS excuses aside please)

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I was chatting to a close friend about this a few days ago in relation to a decision I am trying to make at the moment. The thing with this decision is that it came out of nowhere while I was meditating on what my next step should be. It’s completely random, yet feels really natural? It’s just another one of those cheeky downloads that don’t care about life in 2 weeks time, they are thinking big picture deets only – and here’s why:

All we are ever being called to do is take the guidance we receive now, in this present moment, and put it to action. That’s our next step right there. 

Straight away your logical mind (usually just your fears in disguise) will come bolting on in with the “It’s not logical?! Are you crazy? Move country now? Drop out of Uni in your third year? Change career direction again? Sign up for another course? Nope, I can’t. There’s no way. I ain’t doing it!” – sound familiar? (oh hey fear!)

But let’s get real about things for a second – living your dreams isn’t really ‘logical’, is it? Because living your dreams requires you to go where 99% of the population never will in their lifetime – the unknown zone. Trusting that inner knowing, and the goosebumps all over your body, and the joy in your heart over all the other noise of “you shouldn’t do it because of this, this AND this!”

Don’t get me wrong, we need our logical minds to survive, but there comes a time where you have to question it’s motives and ask yourself if doing what’s logical is really helping you thrive right now? Is it reallllllly allowing you to be who we came here to be? Is it encouraging you to live your dreams, or is keeping you from them? Is it allowing you to be free, and fully expressed, and creative, and excited for life?

Living a heart-driven life isn’t logical, because our intuition isn’t usually logical. Quitting the ‘safe’ job isn’t logical. Starting a business, or pulling out of your Uni degree 3 years in, or moving country to be with someone you love isn’t really logical. That’s because dreams aren’t meant to be logical – they’re meant to be wild, creative, inspiring, risky, exciting, out of the norm and fun.

Your intuition is allowed to (read: meant to) override the rules. That’s its purpose. It’s guiding you. Not your friends, not your Mum or Dad, not your cat – it’s guiding YOU.

“I can’t do this until x, y & z.” “I can’t commit until I KNOW what will happen next” (heads up – you don’t even truly know what’s going to happen next from this moment anyway, do you? So how will it be any different).

The Universe steps in with its superpowers only AFTER you say yes. You have to step first, otherwise how is it meant to know that you’re serious about it? The Universe cheers you on loudest when you choose your heart and intuition over all the other minor details.  Seriously though, priorities people!

Every decision you make is an opportunity to move closer to the life you want and the person you came here to be, or keep you away from it. It’s always your choice, and it’s only ever as hard as you make it out to be. 

Let yourself be shit scared and more excited than ever before at the same time. That’s the sweet spot. Fear, self-doubt, second-guessing yourself a trillion times, feeling weird, getting growing pains, wanting to curl up in ball on the couch and hide from the World – that all comes along for the ride too, but not for long.  

Feel your decision in your body right now. In your heart – not your head. Does the decision feel good in your body? Or does it feel uninspiring, dull, heavy? Your body knows what’s up. 

The time is going to pass anyway. The money is going to be spent anyway. People are going to talk anyway – so you may as well follow what feels good FOR YOU, because that’s the journey you signed up for in this lifetime, remember?

Be inspired by your own life and follow the butterflies my friend.

They are always leading the way.

 

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There is no need to fight back with attack

 + This post is a preview of what you can expect from Week 3 of my 8 week Head to Heart ecourse. Week 3 is where we start to cozy up and get to know the cheeky little negative voice in our heads +

How often does your mind jump on and attack others when you don’t get things your own way? How about when someone is pointing the blame at you for something and you instantly get fired up and offended and your mind starts to automatically attack back before you even know it is? And most of the time these thoughts are really negative and you swear they aren’t really yours?

Facing attack with more attack is one of the cheeky ways your mind keeps you in fear and separates you from love. Unconsciously attacking back in your mind only fuels and feeds your Ego’s (that crazy loud voice in your head that gets high on chaos and has a lifelong desire to always be right) fire and once again keeps you from your power of peace.

“Yeah but they did this first”, “Yeah but he’s not even that good looking anyway so I don’t care”, “Yeah well who cares what she thinks” – see how easy your mind can use attack and judgement as a defence mechanism when you get jealous, angry or are feeling not as good as someone else. The Ego creates this chaos and will keep making up excuses to bring others down to make you feel better. Always needing to be right and feel validated is the Ego’s work at its best!

When you look at this trick from a new perspective, you can start to realise that each time you have the desire to fight back, it’s not you running the show, it’s your Ego. It wants to keep firing up and dragging you down into this low energy of fear and negativity, which as you will have probably experienced before only leaves you feeling frustrated and frantic. Attacking back in your mind (and out loud) is seriously just like two angry dogs (ego’s) barking at each other and trying to play tough guy. 

Can you also see how talking down about others and gossiping about them (another form of attacking) is simply your Ego’s tool to pump itself up to make you feel better? It’s a vicious cycle – and one that we all do easily and unconsciously. Now is the time to witness your Ego’s attacks, and rise above them by bringing acceptance and love to the table instead. This is not always easy, and your Ego will fire up and fight hard against the idea, so be extra compassionate and keep letting go one moment at a time with the tools you have learnt so far. 

Again – you have to get brutally honest with your mind’s games here, which sometimes only cranks it up more! Simply laugh at your Ego’s littleness in these moments when it needs to keep fighting back and creating more chaos. It will come first and loudest so always check in and ask yourself – is this fueling my head or my heart?

Don’t beat yourself up or judge these attack thoughts that comes from nowhere and flare up in your mind because we all do this! It’s our unconscious pattern, and it’s time to consciously start breaking it down. Just become aware of when these thoughts arise, and use every opportunity you get to choose again and strengthen your commitment to bringing the love and peace, not the attack!

MANTRA: I can witness my attack thoughts and rise above them with love.

Notice today where your mind wants to fight back with more attack. Notice where you get easily offended and take things personally, or over-analyse something that someone said to you and let a story run wild in your mind about how they are always out to get you (classic Ego craziness). Question what the hidden agenda of your Ego really is. Does it need to be right? Is it going into victim mode and thinking ‘poor me’? It is trying to start a fight and keep you low vibin’? 

At the end of the day reflect on today’s lessons in your journal.

What triggers my attack thoughts?

Why do I attack back? 

How does attacking back make me feel?

What fires up my Ego most?

 

++ This post is straight from ‘Week 3 – Oh hello, Ego!” of my 8 week Head to Heart ecourse where I’ll teach you how to turn down the volume of the voice in your head and crank UP the volume of the voice in your heart. If you’re living all ‘up in your head’ all the time, then it’s time to get out of your head and back into your heart, and this course is your way out! 

Enrollment for the final Round of 2017 close Friday the 19th of May. 

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My top 5 takeaways from 2015

2015 has been one of the craziest, stretchiest (definitely a word) and most loved-up years of my life!

I’ve stepped away from things that were no longer aligned with my heart or my higher purpose (even when I truly thought they were!), I’ve trusted myself on whole new level, I’ve said yes to big challenges and opportunities for growth, I’ve showed up through some big-ass fears and major self-doubt, I’ve cried a LOT –  both happy tears and ‘holy fuck I don’t know what to do’ tears, I’ve jumped before my mind even had time to tell me I’m not ready, and I’ve started to truly understand that absolutely everything is always as it should be – even when you think it’s not, it always is. 

Here are my top 5 takeaways from 2015.

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+ The challenges you are having right now, are exactly what you asked for. You called those badboys in for your own growth! They are here right now at the perfect time so that you can remember how strong and ready to expand you are. Deep down you already KNOW you have what it takes to bust through them and you’re ready to karate-chop your way into the next level of awesomeness. They truly wouldn’t be here if you didn’t have the skills within you right now to move through them – that’s just how the Universe rolls. The challenges only show up when you are ready to face bigger, more beautiful truths. Know this – your are NEVER given anything that you cannot handle, nor are you ever given anything you aren’t ready for. If you are facing some big stuff right now – know that it’s simply your invitation and divine opportunity to welcome in more love, and you’re already way past ready for it. 

+ It’s allowed to be easy… and fun. One of my mind’s blocks at the moment is “but why does this feel so easy? Shouldn’t it be harder than this?’ (Man our minds come up with some cray cray distractions!?) The thing is, it’s only as hard as you want it to be – and by want – I mean choose. Truthbomb: YOU GET TO CHOOSE. You choose how fast or how slow you go. You choose how big you leap or how little. You choose your dreams or someone else’s. You choose to have a voice or have no voice. You choose struggle or abundance. You choose fear or freedom. You choose stories or truth. You choose how easy and fun it is. You create by continually choosing – so let your choices be easy by choosing the way that feels more FUN in your heart. 

+ Emotional rollercoasters are part of the journey – learn to love them! Honour your creative cycles. Honour your highs and also the lows. It’s all perfect. It’s all exactly as it’s meant to be. You have to be flat to then reach the peaks. You have to go hard, and then go home to recharge. You have to ride it all and remember all is as it should be. The only thing that is certain on this Earth – is change. Seriously, we are here to change and evolve. We are going to ‘out-grow’ some people and some environments – and not in a bad way! It just is what it is. We are meant to change AND we are allowed to! Welcome the flows of life with open arms!

+ At the end of the day – you gotta feel good. If it’s not fun anymore, or it doesn’t inspire and excite you the way you think it should, chances are it’s not aligned with your highest self. It might look and sound like it should be what you want, but if it’s just not, then that’s ok! It’s ALL meant to be feel good. Sure there are uncomfortable bits, but it shouldn’t be like that always. Life is not meant to be a freakin mission ALL the time – it’s meant to be downhill baby. If something doesn’t feel good in your heart anymore, even if you don’t understand why, start asking questions and leaning in on those things that do feel good (hint – they are usually the opposite way to what you’ve thought possible in the past).

+ When you have a sneaky suspicion that there is more waiting for you – trust that there is. Your soul is always leaving clues and giving you little nudges – start freakin listening! The goosebumps you get in your morning meditations don’t muck around. The moments you ‘just know’ are the moments when you are most in tune with your soul. Your creativity is waiting to be expressed. Your heart is waiting to be listened to. Your soul is seeking expansion beyond the rules you’re been trained to believe are ‘the right way’. Trust your inner voice more than ever before. Trust how big your heart is. Trust your light – trust your soul – trust yourself. 

Moving forward into 2016 – some cheeky words of wisdom for you!

Just freakin GO FOR IT!! Seriously – there is nothing to lose other than the stories in your mind that keep telling you that you shouldn’t or that you can’t create what you truly want. The time AND the money passes anyway – so you may as well put that energy into investing in creating the life that you are sick of just dreaming of!

Your dreams will only be taken seriously when you start taking them seriously!

2016 is the time to jump HEART-first and see how much more magical you can ALLOW your life to become.

Because here’s the thing – it’s meant to keep getting better, and better – and the only way it can is if you say YES and take the first step.

I heard this in an interview between Jack Canfield and Oprah a few nights ago – “You are never given a dream that you do not have the potential to fulfill.” Let that soak in. That vision you have of how you truly want your life to be (yep -THAT one), and that dream that is bubbling under the surface and in the back of your mind daily – is there for a reason. You wouldn’t have been shown the dream if you didn’t have it in you to create and LIVE IT. You living your dream is your service to the collective. Know that in your cells. 

Success, abundance, freedom, creativity, love, bliss – that’s how it’s MEANT to be. That’s our natural flow. That’s our path of least resistance. We either fight against it, or we get to ‘work’ and have more fun being who we came here to be.

And here’s the grooviest part – you and me – we’re only just getting warmed up 😉

Thank you for being here on this epic journey with me, and I can’t wait to crank things up a few notches together in 2016!

All love from my heart to yours,

Trace x

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